Advice Corner ...

Top 11 reasons to use Let's Have Chai?

1. You are a workaholic
2. You have limited access to potential partners
3. You have unrealistic expectations
4. You have a tendency to make unwise partner choices
5. You usually choose unavailable partners
6. You view potential partners through marriage eyes
7. You are socially awkward or a bit shy
8. You find it hard to go on a date after a divorce
9. You are looking for a long term relationship
10. You just think that love is a little too complicated
11. Cultural and family restrictions

Top 6 Benefits to use a Professional Service:

Our professional matchmakers are experts in the field of helping people find love. They get to coordinate and guide you through the process of finding the right relationship for you.

1. When working with our service; we try our best to make some kind of meaningful connection within the first three or four introductions.
2. Trust. We make it our business to get to know your wants, needs and desires. It is important for us to establish trust so that you feel comfortable communicating all your wishes.
3. Privacy. We will only introduce you to people you're interested in and will not release your contact information to anyone without your permission. Besides your chosen email address to communicate and your photograph.
4. Safety. No one wants to meet a perfect stranger. You get to judge your match by email and then my phone conversations when you are comfortable. Because of this, you can explore your options without fear or worry.
5. Personalized Service. We try to get to know YOU from your profile; based on your unique personality, lifestyle, likes, dislikes and values, understands exactly who will be a suitable and rewarding match.
6. Time Saver. You don't have to spend countless hours browsing thousands of online profiles, writing dozens of introduction emails and spending the evening alone when a promising prospect doesn't show up for a date. We take care of all the details; allowing you to take charge of your life.

Past Articles....

For Peace and Love.."What a wonderful world!!"

Articles for singles over 35 and up years...

Experts on emotional and social aspects ....

Home alone?

In any age group, same-age interaction is very important. It's a social need. After 35 plus, people are prone to age-related stress and at least one type of illness. Then, there are the socioeconomic changes that come with age. Not necessarily financial changes, but the role one plays in society.

Loneliness is the most common factor in geriatric societies and this can be cut drastically by having a partner who understands you.

Though it is not at all necessary for a couple to be in the same age group for the success of the partnership, a same-age partner allows for an almost instantaneous identification and empathy that might not be possible across generations. For example, a 35-plus couple's idea of spending the evening together would be very different from a 25-plus couple's.

If you are looking for partner; communicate with family members about it. Involve them in the process of looking for a partner and possibly marriage later. That is how acceptance begins. You did it when you were 18 and brought home your girlfriend. Their insecurity needs to be addressed. Give them space and time to cope. Most things can be solved through communication.

PRACTICAL COMPANIONS!

In reality, the heart usually takes the backseat in late marriages. All that the young don't understand, or don't say about marriage, surfaces and becomes the ground reality of such unions. "At this age, most people marry for extremely practical reasons". "Men want wives who cook well and keep the house clean and women want financial security." And those who have the money seek a companion who will kill the silence of a lonely house. "There is no such thing as blind love at 35 plus ". Perhaps it is true that the young marry for the same reasons as the old, but the young do not know the language to say it.

Experts are convinced that practical and realistic marriages are better than remaining single. At an age when the socioeconomic profile is changing, when earnings have vanished, it makes sense to pool resources with another person.

Samina, 35, and Ali 45, married in California in 2005. For both of them it has been a wonderful second marriage after the first didn't work out. "The quality of life improved for both of us because we have two incomes pooled into one establishment," says Samina.

Sometimes marriage not only adds quality to life but can save life itself. Samina's experience: "Socially, I did not go out very often as a single woman, especially in the evenings. I have more friends as a married woman. Companionship has opened. Up a whole new set of options because I feel more secure than I ever felt before."

There must be a reason why marriage is called an institution. Perhaps it is an emotional asylum.

Older Singles' guide ....

You can call marriage bureaus and matrimonial web sites Cupid's assistants. The god of love will come, shoot and leave but giving advice and preparing two about-to-entangled hearts is not his job, thank you. His subordinates can do the the nitty-gritty’s. And if the hearts come with a lifetime of baggage: the burden of orthodox upbringing, relatives who might object to a new relationship, and the invariable susceptibility to fraud that comes with age, they need advice.

If you are over 30 and looking for a partner ....

Most marriage-makers say that class, and religion is totally disregarded by people looking for partners late in life. These can work as criteria only when you are in your 20's and have a large number of eligible people to choose from. Don't complicate your task with these biases.

Create a profile of the person you are seeking. You won't find a perfect, tailored-for-you partner at this age, but do have a minimum set of values you want in a partner. Look out for someone with a positive attitude.

Once you have found the right person, meet each other many times before finalizing the marriage. Use these meetings to put all your cards on the table and decide who's going to take how much responsibility.

Plan out every detail of your wedding and include rituals that you missed the first time. Involve your family. Make a ceremony out of it and enjoy it. On your honeymoon, go to place you always wanted to go. Life is giving you a second chance; make the most of it.

Be ready to make compromises. Compliment each other a lot. And it's a wise to make a pact about the past. Discuss whatever needs to be said about it before the marriage. Neither you nor your partner should be answerable to each other for what happened many years ago.

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